tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post8131550918899899689..comments2023-10-31T04:33:30.335-06:00Comments on The Life of Bon: Boarded the train there's no getting offbonbonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13580532603443802313noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-89149655555716029532014-02-17T09:10:31.907-07:002014-02-17T09:10:31.907-07:00"I don't hear a lot of pregnant women say..."I don't hear a lot of pregnant women say they are scared of the train, and sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one on board who feels doubt or fear. I guess that's why I like Sylvia Plath. I have no intention of sticking my head in an oven door, but that woman just gets me."<br /><br />First off, I really love how you tied in Sylvia Plath to how you feel about your pregnancy considering that she felt the same way herself. Like you and Plath, I feel that even though not all pregnant women admit it, they are deep inside scared of what will happen once the baby arrives. I know I was once our lives started to turn to shambles (almost got evicted from our home due to getting behind on our rediculous amount of rent, no car, my hips starting to hurt me when I slept or walked, our ceiling falling through, etc) and it did not get any better for us until literally after I went into labor with Issac. It seemed as though the demons were after us until Issac saved the day by entering the world.<br /><br />I can tell you that once the little one is here, you're going to fall madly in love. Granted sometimes it is really hard (especially if you already have a kid and he's only almost 5 years old), but the overall experience is really amazing. Just do want you need to do to make the life amazing for the little one and everything will fall into place once he is there. But do yourself a favor for an easier experience, get a midwive. They calm your stress, give you confidence and help you deliver through your own way of birthing without ripping your vagina walls to shreds.Beaute Sombrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01169080252853857340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-52744504356092887942014-02-16T07:54:30.338-07:002014-02-16T07:54:30.338-07:00You know, there are some serious Negative Nancys i...You know, there are some serious Negative Nancys in this world who seem to just go around to blog posts and say the most hateful things, for no good reason, because they obviously have never read your blog before and don't know you at all. Don't let that mean person have you second guessing your abilities as a parent, because you are obviously going to be a great mom!<br />Also, have you ever seen the video, pregnant women are smug? It seems about accurate to me. I know I am going to feel just as scared and nervous when I get pregnant. Heck, I'm already so nervous about it and I'm not even pregnant yet! I don't think there's anything wrong with being scared of the whole giving-birth-and-raising-children thing. In fact, I think it's more troubling if people aren't scared, because fear drives us and pushes us to do our best and to be prepared for anything.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12615019893524085985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-63622211384188066992014-02-15T19:20:54.337-07:002014-02-15T19:20:54.337-07:00Well said! And it is scary. When it's unknown,...Well said! And it is scary. When it's unknown, it's unknown! So as exciting as it is, there are a whole lot of changes coming your way that you just can't fathom and that's a bit terrifying. And when you've been there before, you KNOW the changes headed your way (or at least some form) and that's scary because some of them suck for a while, even when there are so many positives to balance it out. Basically I'm right there, 35 weeks pregnant with my second and still in near denial that it's happening. I can't stand not sleeping and I will be there, I have to be there to feed her, and I'm just going to have to go through it. But coupling that with raising a toddler?? Scary! So don't feel alone Bon. You will do great, scared and excited as you may be!Christina @ The Murrayed Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08845997868835876006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-42895546194972047772014-02-15T17:59:20.653-07:002014-02-15T17:59:20.653-07:00Yes I agree with the others a great post.............Yes I agree with the others a great post............Jo-Anne's Ramblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11418152399382818709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-30572250661960787262014-02-15T16:50:52.709-07:002014-02-15T16:50:52.709-07:00With my first (Olivia) I hated pregnancy so much t...With my first (Olivia) I hated pregnancy so much that all I thought about was getting through. And then one day in the parking lot at work I just got freaked out realizing that the bigger this baby got the harder it would be to get out. And then I remembered epidurals and I chilled out. Sometimes I long to give birth again because those first two days in the hospital are so magical. I did regret having Olivia and Axel when they first came home from the hospital, but that went away after a couple of days :)Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06520199684836826209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-72504692386209224252014-02-15T08:00:56.578-07:002014-02-15T08:00:56.578-07:00I'm one of those bloggers that doesn't div...I'm one of those bloggers that doesn't dive into controversy very often because I don't like rocking the boat or causing drama - I blog to enjoy it, so I don't get into debates or things that will stress me out. I'm originally a high strung person, so partaking in such things will only cause me to die sooner due to the stress I put on myself lol. My point in saying that is that I just commented on the girl who called you a bad mother - I don't usually do things like that, but it burned me up. I think that poem relates to every aspect of life and I love how you related it to all the major events in your life that were uncomfortable. I'll definitely remember this poem next time I'm making a challenging decision or I'm scared to move forward! Thanks for all your awesome - I hope that one day I'll get the opportunity to meet you in real life. I think I'd like you a lot!Heather @ From Here to Therehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12430058332881680901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-56087888230483922602014-02-14T20:23:21.487-07:002014-02-14T20:23:21.487-07:00I just read the comments from the other post you l...I just read the comments from the other post you linked up about your fear of ugly babies. People are seriously uneducated LUNATICS who don't know what satire is! I did love that post and thought it was hilarious, because everyone has that fear to a certain degree. I just pray that our future little girl doesn't get Ryan's flat/long second-toe feet because then she'd never be able to wear sandals. Such a weird thing to be afraid of I know hahaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08367246574101132333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-42817106346173614672014-02-14T20:04:41.926-07:002014-02-14T20:04:41.926-07:00I'm pregnant with my first as well, and yes I&...I'm pregnant with my first as well, and yes I'm excited, but I'm also nervous and anxious. There are a lot of "what-ifs" associated with it, and honestly, I feel that if a new parent ISN'T nervous to some degree, something is kind of wrong with that picture. It's a huge responsibility that shouldn't be taken lightly! They're either not being honest about how they're really feeling (which to some degree is okay, as long as they're honest with themselves deep down) or they're not taking the new parenting gig seriously. It's a lot to take in, and the fact that you're so worried about it shows that you actually care. Great post! Display Namehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00323188538549107684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-77611124358730594892014-02-14T18:40:40.132-07:002014-02-14T18:40:40.132-07:00words cannot describe how accurate this is right n...words cannot describe how accurate this is right now. I'm expecting and I've been feeling the exact same way for the past little while. I mean at times I want the train to hurry up and reach the darned destination already, and then at other times I just can't comprehend how I'm gonna be ready in a few months for a whole new life. I kind of understand why she's not so stoked at times - pregnancy can really suck sometimes! I was never one for poetry either really but Sylvia Plath is really amazing.. I can't wait to read as you experience the whole motherhood kit and caboodle because I have NO doubt you'll be able to vocalize how all of us feel/will feel at times in such an eloquent way! Congrats and good luck!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07810635487723071132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-19720532854362054192014-02-14T17:50:52.574-07:002014-02-14T17:50:52.574-07:00What an insightful poem by Plath. Very insightful...What an insightful poem by Plath. Very insightful and honest. One thing I've been learning as I get older is people don't voice their uncertainties about certain life situations so then you're suddenly blindsided by a reality check. I love your blog and the fact that you're an English teacher and share your lessons here. You're honest as most writers are (hallelujah for blogs!) and I wish you the best on your journey into motherhood (and congrats!) :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-16442445739967465342014-02-14T17:25:35.337-07:002014-02-14T17:25:35.337-07:00First of all, I LOVE Sylvia Plath and her poem, Da...First of all, I LOVE Sylvia Plath and her poem, Daddy! <br />Second of all, the train metaphor and you being a bit nervous about where it'll stop reminds me of the Inception quote, "You're waiting for a train. A train that'll take you far away. You know where you hope this train will take you. But you can't know for sure. Yet it doesn't matter."<br />Third, you will be an AMAZING mom! I know it! You care so much about your students, and if you care about someone else's angsty teenager that much, then think about how much you will love, protect, and nourish your own child!Tayler Morrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15451482104180503209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-73960679406227056572014-02-14T17:02:13.834-07:002014-02-14T17:02:13.834-07:00So I love that John Green quote and I have learned...So I love that John Green quote and I have learned to love poetry too. I am sure it is the strangest, most amazing thing to be pregnant with many many random thoughts! Erica Jacqulinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10629664663853428476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-87414867309878114532014-02-14T15:08:10.690-07:002014-02-14T15:08:10.690-07:00Such a great post! I can only imagine how crazy i...Such a great post! I can only imagine how crazy it must feel to think of all those things!The Girl who Loved to Writehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11069853342158261301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-31354041027564527202014-02-14T15:05:59.579-07:002014-02-14T15:05:59.579-07:00Well, I certainly felt apprehensive when I was pre...Well, I certainly felt apprehensive when I was pregnant and even for a while after Henry was born about being a parent and the fact that life would never be the same. And even still, every once in a while, I feel a pang of sadness that my old life is forever gone, even though I was so ready to move on. But it is TOTALLY worth it. And the truth is, that some parts of my old life will come back again. Eventually my husband and I will get to go to movies and spur of the moment trips. It might not be until all of our children are in college, but that's ok. <br /><br />But you aren't alone. It's just not something we talk about a lot. :)Natalie | Mrs. Janney |https://www.blogger.com/profile/18312142177721655450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-12222093327482325792014-02-14T13:57:15.451-07:002014-02-14T13:57:15.451-07:00This is such a great post! I can SO identify! When...This is such a great post! I can SO identify! When I was pregnant with my son (now 22 months old) I was TERRIFIED but so excited! I had all the same thoughts as you. I am here and love it! It is hard but so fun, most of the time! You will wonder what you did pre-kid!calliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12379714470775834388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-41029739496820082632014-02-14T13:41:39.961-07:002014-02-14T13:41:39.961-07:00This is a beautiful post. My husband and I were j...This is a beautiful post. My husband and I were just having a conversation recently about how we feel about trying to get pregnant. I love the metaphor of the train, and I completely feel the same way about it even though I haven't boarded yet! Megan @ Grad Student Needs Hobbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10881786374649662016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-71344113320462513292014-02-14T12:54:44.963-07:002014-02-14T12:54:44.963-07:00The last two lines gave it away for me. Oh you ate...The last two lines gave it away for me. Oh you ate a whole bag of apples? Yep been there ;)<br />Side note, I did not tear with either of my lil guys. <br />Also don't forget your kegals! (Can I talk about vaginas on here?) I was so bad about that and now I get nervous every time I sneeze. Or run. Or jump. :/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16172964524159197522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-68060400249526699012014-02-14T12:17:09.598-07:002014-02-14T12:17:09.598-07:00I agree with you that I don't usually like &qu...I agree with you that I don't usually like "traditional" poetry (though I'm super into slam poetry - try showing some kids stuff off the Button Poetry youtube channel!), but I loved our units on Plath. I ended up doing one of my final presentations on a close reading of her poetry and it was so interesting. I love the comparisons you're drawing, and I hope the train gets to its destination soon! (Was that a workable metaphor? Not sure.)Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02277056535139881326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-31959846687611609712014-02-14T11:17:44.633-07:002014-02-14T11:17:44.633-07:00Wow, Bon! I appreciate you writing this... It'...Wow, Bon! I appreciate you writing this... It's exactly how I feel at the thought of having kids soon. And you're right, no one really talks about those feelings. You aren't alone, and I think you reminded others today that neither are they.Lauren @ 34 Magnolia Streethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00103759725264893610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-67840203066227731092014-02-14T11:13:01.763-07:002014-02-14T11:13:01.763-07:00Congrats on the new addition! I can see how a com...Congrats on the new addition! I can see how a comment like that would sting, but let it roll off. One thing that I think is totally off-limits when you're commenting on folks is their ability to parent, and that person probably went too far with their assessments. You will be fine, no one knows what they're doing as a parents, so just get on the train, and enjoy the ride as best as you can!Cheri @ Overactive Bloggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06930561201203396349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-63042652471672232332014-02-14T11:12:41.136-07:002014-02-14T11:12:41.136-07:00I so appreciate you posting this. Not only for th...I so appreciate you posting this. Not only for the literary part (which is fabulous), but for the honesty. Fiance and I are obviously engaged and we've started to have the more serious talks about when kids will play a part in our marriage. I've always, always wanted kids, so the thought was never scary before, but now that it's actually in the semi-near future, it's like... OMG this will be real someday. Real to the point that I started having dreams of being fully pregnant and in labor and telling the doctors and nurses "Nope, no thank you. Not quite ready for all of this to happen yet. Go ahead and tell the little one to wait a while longer."<br /><br />So thank you for keeping it real, my dear. You're going to be an amazing mother-- F the haters! It is one thing that I will never get over when it comes to blog readers and those who comment negatively, just because they feel as if they have to-- who are they to call you out on anything personal, ESPECIALLY when it comes to something as intimate as becoming a mother. Shame on them.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05028865840502426128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-67875407705168350402014-02-14T11:08:55.015-07:002014-02-14T11:08:55.015-07:00I'm obviously late to your good news!!! Congr...I'm obviously late to your good news!!! Congratulations! I am expecting our first baby as well. I have wanted this for a long time and I also thought I would be more nervous and constantly thinking about labor. I honestly have felt nothing but happiness and excitement so far, but I fully believe all those fears of "oh shit this is really happening, what have I got myself into and we are going to be responsible for this baby how do I raise a baby?!?!?" Will come the further along I get. There is A LOT of emotion that comes along with this journey. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-81187294286272152582014-02-14T10:59:08.051-07:002014-02-14T10:59:08.051-07:00What an awesome post! And thanks for telling us th...What an awesome post! And thanks for telling us the answer to that riddle ;) I was never one to "get it" when it came to poems either. You really described such a common emotion of taking a train to the unknown. It feels both exciting and scary at the same time. And when I start to feel more fear than excitement I try to remember that God ordained the train in motion, and unless He chooses to stop it for whatever reason, I can trust that He is in control and will give me the strength to endure the ride! I remember feeling so many of the same emotions when I was pregnant 4 years ago, and yes life does change once you bring a child into this world, but never have I wished to not be a mother to our biggest blessing!<br /><a href="http://evamarietaylor.com/blog" rel="nofollow">Eva Marie</a>Eva Marie Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06614789943917239050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-89467081340293034932014-02-14T10:37:06.955-07:002014-02-14T10:37:06.955-07:00I also just wanted to add in reference to your pos...I also just wanted to add in reference to your post you linked to that I am a redhead myself and never wanted a redheaded boy - girl I was okay with - but then my nephew came along and he is the cutest redheaded child ever. Evidence >>> http://www.behindthecameraanddreaming.com/2013/07/the-coolest-kid-in-colorado.html ;)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06350929904177631499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22472965.post-41628010445570513882014-02-14T10:28:53.373-07:002014-02-14T10:28:53.373-07:00Sometimes I wish people who comment would think ab...Sometimes I wish people who comment would think about how they would feel if someone said something like that to them. <br /><br />Worrying about what ifs means that you're going to be fine, because you care. Nicole Maricahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04046684805650309836noreply@blogger.com