The Life of Bon: A baby or a dog.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

A baby or a dog.



Last summer Greg begged me for either a baby or a dog.

I don't know why or how, but suddenly an urge had come over Greg.  An urge to care for, to provide for, to protect.  Out of nowhere he felt this deep desire to be responsible for someone else's life.

I didn't totally understand.  I was in the middle of a beautiful summer.  Three months off of teaching, a trip to Hawaii, frequent visits to the water park, late nights reading my books- who needs another living thing to take care of?  I was just fine thank you very much.

But Greg kept pressing.  Week after week,
his plea to grow our family in some way continued.

Finally toward the end of summer I relented.  I told him we could look for dogs.

So the puppy hunt commenced.

It certainly wasn't all fun and games looking for a dog.  We wanted different things.  I was about as flexible as a board.  (Isn't it sad that the person who wants it least has the most power?)  I would not have a dog who shed.  I would not have a big dog.  The only dog I would have, in fact, was a toy poodle.

Greg was exasperated.  He wanted a dog, yes, but what kind of a dog is a toy poodle anyway?  An insult to his manhood, that's what kind of a dog a toy poodle is!  So the dog hunt stalled and stalled.  We couldn't agree on anything.

In October I found Maverick on KSL.  He was a redhead, just like Greg.  A little toy poodle puppy at a reasonable price, just waiting to come home to a loving family.  I called Greg from work to tell him I had found a possibility and by the time I came home that night Greg had already done the research and was 100% convinced we should buy the pup.

There were frantic, quick phone calls and before I knew it I was driving an hour and a half to pick up a puppy while Greg was on his way to rehearsal.  I had never seen that man so excited in his whole life.  "When I come home tonight I will have a dog!" he shouted on his way out the door.

And just like that, we were now the proud owners of a little toy poodle.

And proud, were we ever!  It amazed me how quickly I fell head over heels in love with the little guy.  Both Greg and I were borderline obsessed.

"Look at Mav!" we'd exclaim.
"Isn't that the funniest thing? He's rolling on the floor with that teddy bear."
"Oh my gosh, Maverick is watching TV!"





We transitioned easily into a little family of three.  In some odd sense, it felt like Maverick had always been with us- like he had never not been  part of the family.  Life was easy with Maverick- we took him on walks, we played fetch, we laughed constantly at the silly puppy things he did.  When Greg was gone I texted him pictures of Mav and when I was at work Greg would update me on Mav's potty schedule.  We were successfully responsible for a living thing!

Lest you think I'm telling you only half the story, it wasn't all roses and unicorns.  There were some difficulties, some growing pains.  The first eight weeks we would have to wake up in the night to take Maverick out to the bathroom.  He cried at 3 am for no good reason.  He kept us up; I went to work sleep deprived from a needy, anxious puppy. We started to feel guilty if we were away from him for more than three or four hours. We got stressed when his poop looked abnormal.  People everywhere told us it was great training for a real baby.  Surely we were nowhere near real parents, but we started to believe them.  Was this maybe, just maybe, a little taste of parenthood?




Fall was so good to us this year, lingering all the way through October and even into November.  The days were beautiful and warm and we soaked them all up.  All through October I took Maverick on warm, afternoon walks.

One day in mid November the weather finally began to turn.  It was one of those idyllic, cold fall days- the first of the cold- when sweaters and boots are a novelty, and it's so fun to get bundled up and feel just a little bit of that cool air again.  I looked out my classroom windows during fourth period, admiring the changing seasons and the falling leaves.  A student said to me, "I love this gloomy weather!"  I agreed.  The wind, the dark skies, the threatening rain were all so incredibly welcome and eerily romantic.  A stormy, fall day- almost like a scene from a book.  One of those days where all you want to do is go home, make some wassail, put on your pumpkin spice candle, and indulge in a long, hot bubble bath.  That was my plan for after work, at least.

On the way home from school I stopped at Target to pick up some bubble bath.  I picked out the bubbles, wandered around the store in no particular hurry, looked casusally at some nail polishes.  Passing the "ladies" section I remembered I was a few days late on my period.  Maybe?  I've never been too great at tracking the bugger, but it seemed like it should have come that weekend.  Friday or Saturday maybe?  And now it was Tuesday.  Yes, I was possibly a few days late.  So I threw a pregnancy test in the cart.

When I came home I forgot about the pregnancy test.  The day felt so lazy and carefree.  Greg wouldn't be home until six, dinner was already in the crockpot, I was totally free for a couple of hours.  I fixed myself a snack, watched a bit of TV and then went to fill the tub.  The pregnancy test fell out of the bag as I reached for the bubble bath.

Oh, yes.  That.

As I filled the tub I unwrapped the pregnancy test, peed on a little, plastic stick and waited patiently, tapping my chipped fingernails on the counter sink.

Last summer Greg begged me for either a baby or a dog.

Little did I know that come July I'd be giving him both.

The night we found out our happy news.

150 comments:

  1. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!! BABY BON is on the way :)

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  2. Congratulations! You are gonna be an awesome mom. And I love that Greg gets both his wishes, much to his surprise.

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  3. Aww, this is so sweet. Congratulations!

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  4. EEEEEEeeeeeeee!!! I am SO EXCITED FOR YOU. Sorry about the yelling. I can't wait to give you a hug next week when I see you!

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  5. Oh my goodness! Congratulations!

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  6. Oh my goodness! Congratulations!

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  7. Omg!! Congratulations!! I skipped ahead at the bubble bath part, knowing it was coming...and then gasped "oh!!" when you finally said it! Haha! I'm excited for you!

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  8. Yay!!!! Congratulations!!

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  9. Congrats!!! That is so exciting. You are going to LOVE being a mom. And yes, your story of caring for Mav will definitely get you started on your parenthood journey. Rest up now while you can, I know everyone will probably say that, but its true! I wish I took the advice while I was pregnant. How are you feeling???

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  10. Oh my goodness!! Congratulations! Best present ever. :)

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  11. OH my Goodness!!!!! I am so happy for you two! :) God's blessings on your pregnancy and future child! :)

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  12. AAAHHHHHHHH!!!! :) :) :) Congratulations!!!

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  13. Yay!!! Congratulations!!!!

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  14. Congrats!!! It's quite the journey but so so worth it!

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  15. Congrats!! I just yelled out loud!!

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  16. Oh my, oh my, oh my!!!!

    So excited for you. Congrats!

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  17. I had a feeling that was how this blog post would conclude--YES! CONGRATS!

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  18. Oh my goodness! Some many Blackburn babies! :) so excited for you!

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  19. Oh my goodness! Some many Blackburn babies! :) so excited for you!

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  20. Congrats BonBon!!

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  21. I think I just started to cry a little bit. I'm so excited that we are due around the same time! Message me on Facebook if you wanna chat!

    Congrats! I'm so excited for you guys!

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  22. Whoooo!! Congrats!! You guys are going to be amazing! Seriously. That baby will be the wittiest, funniest, and cutest little person. Congratulations again!

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  23. Congratulations!!!

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  24. By the way, how have you been feeling? Have you been sick at all? You still seem so on top of it so I'm impressed you are able to do so much! When I'm pregnant everything goes to heck and I get lazy as ever, haha. :)

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  25. Congratulations!!!!! When are you due?!

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  26. oh my gosh!!! I am so excited for you guys, in fact I got goose bumps as I was getting closer to the news. It seems to be the season of baby announcing. Love it!!

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  27. HOLY SHIZ!!!! I am so excited for you!! AHHH!!

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  28. I'm so happy for you guys! Congrats! :D

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  29. I LOVE how you shared the news! Congratulations! What a blessing. You two will be incredible parents!

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  30. CONGRATULATIONS!!! 2/3 of the way through I thought this was what you were going to say and I skipped ahead because I couldn't wait! How exciting!

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  31. Yes! Yes! Yes! Best news ever! I must admit I skimmed through most of the post hoping it was what I was thinking it was. Congrats! Parenthood is the best adventure ever!

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  32. YAY!!!!!! Congrats to you both :-) When in July are you due?! I'm due July 4th and time already seems like it's going WAY too fast! I hope you had a great first trimester!!

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  33. Woot woot!!!! :) I'm so excited for you and Greg!! :) I love how you wrote your post too, it's the best!!! :)

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  34. I basically just screamed at my computer in excitement! Congrats Bon! I'm so so so happy for you and Greg.

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  35. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! so excited for you!!!

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  36. Congrats!! Oh So EXCITING!! I hope we will get belly pictures (doesn't have to be bare belly) and weekly updates on your pregnancy! At least random updates!? oh yay! You are going to be the cutest pregnant person ever! :)

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  37. Congrats! Hope you're feeling well. Many good thoughts :-)

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  38. Congratulations! So exciting!

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  39. Congratulations!!!!!! How exciting!! At first while I read this I just kept thinking about how cute your dog and understanding your love for him then suddenly I got suspicious an knew what you were up to! So excited for you :) Can't wait to read about everything pregnancy

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  40. Congratulations!!! That's such exciting news and this is probably the best we're pregnant post I've read.

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  41. YAY!!!! So exciting!!!! Congratulations!!!

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  42. Wonderful news, Bonnie! It will be fun to read about this new adventure. Congratulations to you and Greg!
    -Melanie

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  43. Congratulations BONNIE!

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  44. Congratulations!!! Oh my goodness this was the greatest post ever!!!

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  45. Whaaaat!?!? How exciting!! Congrats.

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  46. Ahhhh, HUGE congratulations!! Great post, I had no idea where it was going until you mentioned your period being late lol! x

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  47. AHHH!!! congratulations!

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  48. Yay!!! Congrats!!! So happy for y'all!

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  49. AHHHHHHHHH congratulations!!!!!! I'm so excited and happy for your little family (and I'm sure Greg FLIPPED OUT). Also, this was the best pregnancy announcement of all time... it came out of the left field, that's for sure.

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  50. What!? Congratulations... that is the best news ever :)

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  51. oh my goodness, what great and amazing news. I have never been so happy for a person that I don't know IRL to be pregnant xx

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  52. Congratulations Bonnie! You got me til the end, I thought it was just a post about your dog! So exciting!

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  53. I totally thought this was going to have a sad ending about Maverick not working out or something. Goodness gracious, I was not expecting baby! CONGRATULATIONS. :)

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  54. AHHHHHHHHHH This was the best story ever!!! I mean, seriously, you're a great storyteller, I literally had no idea where that story was heading...I assumed it was going to be all about Maverick. We have been the same way about our puppy, since we brought her home last February. We talk about her constantly, we think EVERYTHING she does is just so cute, and we hate even going out to dinner for a few hours because it means she is home alone. Anyway, you'll have to keep us posted on how having a puppy compares to the real deal :) Congratulations!

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  55. Of all the pregnant bloggers, I am THE MOST excited to read yours!!! Congratulations! =)

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  56. Congratulations! You will be an amazing mommy.

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  57. Aww yeah! A little ginger babe! So excited for you both.

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  58. Oh my word!! CONGRATS!!!! That is totally jot how I thought this story was going to end, but I'm so happy for you both! You'll be a great mommy :)

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  59. OMIGOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    FELICITATIONS!

    I had no idea I could be this happy for an Internet friend! I'm like, over the moon for you. YAY!!!!

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  60. Oh wow! Congratulations! My husband and I got a bichon poodle dog before having kids and he was (and is) so awesome with my girls. Can't wait to read about all your mommy adventures :)

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  61. Ahhh! Such a wonderful way to share the news! Congratulations!

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  62. Ahhh congratulations!!!! So exciting! Can't wait to follow your pregnancy, hope it's going well!

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  63. So excited for you!!!!!! The cutest puppo ever and now the cutest babes ever!!

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  64. So happy for you and Greg!! I had my husband pause what we were watching so that I could read this post!

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  65. This is such exciting news! I'm so happy for you both!

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  66. Ahhhh!! Had a sneaky feeling you'd announce this news soon!! This is exciting!! xx

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  67. Congratulations!! I had a feeling when I saw the title of this post!! You guys will be great parents :)

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  68. Yayyyy! Congratulations! So happy for you guys!

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  69. aww congrats!! how exciting!

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  70. How is it that a quirky blog post about a puppy, could make tears spring to my eyes when I read the news? Congratulations, Bonnie! So excited for you & your little family!

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  71. This is the greatest post ever. Congratulations!!

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  72. AHHHHHHHHHH! Great announcement post! CONGRATULATIONS! Wishing you a healthy and low-stress pregnancy!

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  73. Congratulations! Wonderful news! xoxoxo

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  74. Awww! Congratulations to you both!!

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  75. Congratulations Bonnie!! So excited for you and your little fam!!

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  76. CONGRATS BONNIE AND GREG!!!!!!

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  77. Congratulations! I've been reading your blog for about a year and I always look forward to your new posts and today I actually clapped and "awww"d when I read this!!

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  78. Aww congratulations!!! :) I just found your blog and I love your candid personality and how funny you are. My husband and I are expecting our first baby and are due May 2nd! Such exciting times!! I hope the best for you and your husband!

    www.jennyhighsmith.com

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  79. Awe, so happy for you both :) Congrats

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  80. OMG!!! i've been a longtime reader and i am so excited for you guys! congratulations :)

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  81. Congrats! Babies are great! They also take a while to figure out sleeping, but it will happen eventually. It sounds like your little pup gave you a little taste of that.

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  82. Congratulations!!!!! I hope your baby is born on July 2nd so it can share my birthday!

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  83. How exciting! Congrats! I am also due in July :) Such a great month for a baby!

    Ashley
    Man and Wife and Two Fur Babies

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  84. SO exciting! Maverick is going to be a great big brother :) Can't wait to follow along!

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  85. I am so so so happy for you! wishing you the very best of luck with the journey I look forward to hearing more! xx

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  86. So I'm reading this while sitting alone in my kitchen with only my coffee for company and I literally just got goose bumps and said, "Aw this is so sweet!!!" out loud to no one in particular. CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Mav is adorable and I bet he'll make an awesome "big brother." :)

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  87. First of all, Mav is adorable!! The puppy pics of him made me "awwww". I have a Bichon/Poodle mix and she's the cutest thing EVER.

    Secondly, CONGRATS to you both on the baby news!!!

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  88. OMG!! Congratulations you guys on both puppy and baby news!! 2014 is definitely an awesome year.

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  89. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I'm due in May, yay for summer babies!

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  90. OMG!!! Congrats :)

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  91. I LOVE THIS!!! Congratulations you guys! What fun news! :)

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  92. Ha ha! What a great reveal! So happy for you two :) Congratulations.

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  93. Yay! That is super exciting! You totally had me fooled! I thought this was a whole post about how you were obsessed with your dog. Wrong! Such fabulous news! Congratulations!

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  94. Ahhh!! I love the way you wrote this!!! A baby!! So exciting!!! I cannot wait to read your posts about pregnancy!!

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  95. YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY BONNIE! So excited for you. What a wonderful little surprise. Congrats to you & your family and your dog and your students.. YAY FOR EVERYONE. I sound like a nerd.

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  96. Aaaaaaahhhhhhh!!!!!!!thats so exciting! I'm so happy for you!

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  97. First off.....congrats on the news!!!
    Secondly - - - - OMG That is the cutest dog!

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  98. AHHHHHHHHHHH! You are my favourite blogger and honestly i havent read your blog in a while and wouldnt you know...this would be the blog i would read! Everyone i know is pregnant and everyone who has had a baby in the last year or who is pregnant now is have a girl. Congrats

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  99. I just gasped out loud at work! Congratulations!!!!

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  100. Congratulations! There is no greater blessing in the world than a child! Your life is going to change dramatically but it is going to be awesome!! (Now you know why you didn't move!!)

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  101. OMG, i read all the way to the end TOTALLY not expecting that! Congrats to you and Greg!

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  102. How precious!!! Congratulations!

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  103. Well I'm over here crying my eyes out. I'm so happy for you.

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  104. Congratulations to you and Greg!

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  105. Oh my gosh I loved this post!! CONGRATS!!!!!!

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  106. Congrats!!!! Thats awesome!

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  107. Really cute story... 'made me smile...congrats to you all! Now I think you should get a kitten, a gerbil, maybe a parakeet, and how about a couple of fish? Why stop with a puppy and a baby? :) You are on a roll girly...!

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  108. Congrats! I am also due in July, July 25th. Cant wait to hear more about your 1st trimester and follow along till the baby comes!

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  109. As I was reading this I kept thinking where is it going ! And let me just say Congrats this is amazing news!!!

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  110. Congrats, girl! I know you are going to be a great momma!

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  112. AHHHH So wonderful! Congrats!!! Great story, too! :)

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  113. Great story... CONGRATS! You're going to be an amazing mom!

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  114. I am so ridiculously happy for you (and greg and your families!!) and i can't wait to hear all about it when you blog about it!!! :)
    (i did get this panic when i read this of "oh no bonnie's one of my favorite bloggers and what if she stops blogging after baby? so i hope you keep going but eep so exciting!!!) :)

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  115. CONGRATS!!!!! That's so exciting for you.

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  116. So exciting! Congrats! Great timing for a teacher too!

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  117. Congratulations Bon!!!!!!!!! I am so excited for the both of you! you two will make great parents!!!!!! Ps. the email to send that paypal link to would be hansenloveblog@gmail.com :) thanks dear!

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  118. such great news! and such a great post! it gave me goosebumps. so happy for you guys!

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  119. So happy for you both! Parenthood is awfully awesome (I mean sometimes awful and a lot of times awesome). So excited for all of the funny and realistic parenting posts that are sure to come! You are going to love this :) I already feel like I relate to you so well, and I'm excited that we'll have even more in common. Can't wait for more. CONGRATS!

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  120. Great news and Beautiful Puppy, conrats :)

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  121. Yay!! Congratulations! I've been reading your blog for a little over a year now and I look forward to reading it every day! I know you don't know me but I am so excited for you!!

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  122. Congratulations!! That's so exciting! Surprise babies are just the best, hope pregnancy is treating you well xx

    Katie @ www.whatyoudoingkatie.blogspot.co.uk

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  123. I'm so excited for you!!! Congratulations....I love this story because the same thing happened to Tim and I. We got our Gracie dog...and then months later we were having a baby....of course fast forward 13 years and now we have 4 kids and 2 dogs....oh and 2 cats. Needless to say God likes to keep us on our toes! Again Congratulations and enjoy every second because they go fast.

    Laura @ Mice In The Kitchen

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  124. I was so not expecting that, but I'm slow sometimes. ;) You write so well...I loved reading this!!

    Congratulations!!!

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  125. i saw this post on bloglovin! hahahaha i'm the same way w/ my dog...my husband said one of these days we should install mochicam so we can see what she's doing when we're at home! congrats on the great news!!

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  126. Just got goosebumps for you!!! So sweet that you documented that moment. Getting positive pregnancy tests-- one when I was fingers crossed that it would be and one where I was a bit shell-shocked when it was-- might be two of the biggest moments of my life. Such a little stick with a huge impact. Congratulations you two on both! And yes, a puppy is probably the best prep you can get for a baby, but you still have quite the whirlwind ahead (and will miss a puppy waking you at night... it becomes a whole different ballgame! :))

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  127. OH WOW! Congratulations Bonnie.. I am sure you are extremely excited. Especially since you'll probably have two ginger babies in the house! I just had my second son on December 11th, 2013 and he's kind of a strawberry blonde. So smitten!

    Don't worry though Bon, you're going to LOVE LOVE LOVE being a parent. I didn't think so for the longest time (I love being around kids, don't get me wrong!) until I had my first son in 2009 when I was only 19 years old. Never knew I would love being a mother until I gave birth to my very own. You'll feel the same way about your little one, just like how you probably LOVE your dog Maverick. I promise girl!

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  128. Stumbled upon the adorable picture of your puppy and stopped in to take a peek…congratulations on your rapidly growing family!

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  129. This post is an adorable way to announce your pregnancy! Congratulation!

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  130. yay! that is so awesome :) cant wait to watch your journey

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  131. Aw yay! I'm excited for you both! Or rather, you three.

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