The Life of Bon: The Big Things

Thursday, January 26, 2012

The Big Things

Sometimes life is overflowing with little things.  Little things that you think are important.  Like paying the bills, and grocery shopping, and pinterest, and weekend plans, and presidential debates, and telling kids to shut their mouths.  Sometimes there are even little arguments or little hurt feelings and life is filled to the brim with everything little.

And then something big happens.  And it shoves all of those little things right out of the way.

Today, in the middle of teaching a truly riveting lesson about the difference between a comma and a semi-colon, I could hear my phone vibrating in my desk.  When the kids had scuttled out and I finally got around to checking the phone, I saw a text from my mom:  my Uncle Berg had passed away. 

Sometimes when big things happen it is difficult to know what to do or how to act because we are so accustomed to little.

In my case, I sat down and cried in the middle of an empty classroom.

Because my own dad died two years ago, my first thought was, "Dad will be glad to see him."  Dad died relatively young, so he beat out most of his family to the pearly gates.  I have wondered sometimes if he is lonely up there, since we're all still down here, stoically carrying on without him.  Today I was comforted knowing that my dad would have some company up there, and that Berg would have someone to greet him with a big hug. 

I wonder what my dad and uncle are doing right now.  Laughing?  Talking about the good old days?  Hammering away on some heavenly cabin?

I am so grateful for family, for strong bonds that connect us even after death, and for a loving God who has given us knowledge of the afterlife. 

So grateful for the big things.

The good old days:  My Uncle Berg on the left and my dad on the right,
most likely fixing an ingrown nail..


  1. no other words except this was a great post. thanks for the reminder.

  2. I'm so sorry - I'll be thinking about your whole family. *hug*

  3. there is a lot of comfort in that knowledge isn't there? i bet the reunion was amazing!

    i featured you on my blog today. i hope it brings you lots and lots of visitors!

  4. Hi Bonnie!
    Mamarazzi sent me your way and I'm so glad she did! So very sorry to hear about the loss of your uncle. Losing someone is never easy, but hope you find great comfort in knowing that he's in a better place. I am now a follower of yours...YAY!

  5. hey found you through Mamarazzi and love your writing so following now. btw I'm becca from everyday life a little blog full of random chaos

  6. I get those feelings sometimes, esp as Feb 5 creeps up and that's the anniversary of my Mom's passing. There is a lot of comfort in knowing that reunion is happening, I think of that a lot as well.

    I stopped by because of Mamarazzi and I feel the same way you do about these cliques on blog sites. I do my best not to be a part of them and visit lots of people and you and I seem to have a lot in common. I'm a new follower now :)

    Have a great day and a great weekend and hope to see you pop in over at my blog :)

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  8. I love your site!! I recently started following mamarazzi and she featured you in her post today =) I just started blogging within the last few months and totally agree with you that it's hard to "fit in" when so many have their own cliques already!

    I'm following you now =)

  9. I'm another who wandered over from Mamarazzi's!

    I'm so terribly sorry to hear about your uncle. What a wonderful tribute your post was - and I'm sure your Dad and Uncle are now rejoicing together.

    Thoughts and prayers for you!

  10. Bless your heart! I am so sorry about your uncle. Praying for your family's comfort during this time. XOXO

    I'm visiting from Mamarazzi.

  11. so sorry about your loss. hoping you find peace and comfort this weekend.

  12. So sorry for your loss. I know how hard that is, my sweet momma left me in July 2006, my best friend March 2006. Loss it hard. Hang in there!

  13. Anonymous10:38 AM

    I too lost my father many years ago (yet it still feels like it was just yesterday) and I too wonder what he does up there all day. I try and jeep him company by chatting with him in my mind. I'm glad your dad has now a companion up there. Chin up kid ;)

  14. Loosing a parent, or any loved one is unfathomably hard. I lost my beautiful mamma last year but like you I believe she is getting the lay of her new kingdom and so excited to show me and the rest of my fam when we finally get up there. I know our family up there are truly happy beyond belief because they are without pain or anguish, and perfectly at peace and joy with our Lord.

    It wont be long now until we are all reunited. Whenever that day may come. Until then, I pray God's perfect peace and comfort upon your heart and mind as you walk through this. Hugs, girly.

    Jeanine :))