The Life of Bon: This is Marriage

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

This is Marriage



A few nights ago I couldn't find my toothbrush, but Greg's toothbrush was (for whatever odd reason) lying on the bedroom floor, so I picked it up and brushed my teeth with it.  No harm no foul, right?

And then it dawned on me.  What a weird thing. To live with a boy who is sometimes smelly and always nice, and then find his toothbrush on the floor and just up and use it.  Shucks! This is what it is to be in a marriage?  To exchange knowing looks across a crowd full of people. To argue over what kind of dog to get.  To learn a new recipe because it's his favorite. To wait for him before you watch your favorite new episode on Hulu.  To stand up for him. To beg for a massage. To get so mad at him you could scream. To clean the whole house and buy decorations and wait for him to get home and notice. To wonder when you are going to have more babies. To tell him to stop spending so much. To miss him when you haven't talked for eight hours. To laugh at an inside joke. To know exactly what his hand feels like in yours.  To think of him when a song comes on the radio.  To yell at him to get into the other lane. To take a hot bath with him. To beg him to go to a wedding reception with you. To feel pride when he eats all the food you have cooked. To pray for his happiness. To watch Transformers with him even though you hate that movie.  To have a favorite restaurant together. To throw his clothes in the laundry. To ask him to pick up a diet coke for you on his way home.  To tell him to turn off the damn alarm.  To run your fingers through his hair. To plead with him not to get mad when you lose the keys. To make all big life decisions together. To put his name on all of your emergency contact forms. To feel his disappointment as your own. To laugh at his stupid jokes.  To feel safe when he is there. To swear at him when he beats you in tennis. To beg forgiveness when you hurt his feelings. To ask what he thinks of your new haircut. To record a basketball game on TV for him. To wear a dress because you know he likes the way it looks on you. To go to dinner with his parents. To know his smell. To follow him around the house arguing that you are right and he is wrong. To give him the hamburgers to throw on the grill. To know who his favorite actor is. To complain that he's hogging all the covers. To pick up his towel off the floor. To show him a clip on youtube that you know will make him laugh. To plan your life around his and his around yours. To steal quarters out of his pants pocket. To get mad at him for being late. To make him late.  To pick up his favorite candy bar at the store. To spoon in the morning. To listen to him tell stories to your niece. To go for a run together. To tell him he's the most stubborn person you've ever met. To take his last name. To painfully create a budget together. To hope he doesn't notice when you buy a new pair of shoes. To sip from his soda at the movie theater. To give love. To receive love. To always be his number one priority.

This is marriage.

This post was originally published October 8, 2013.
It's one of my all time favorites and I was feeling sentimental and lovey and gooey, so I reposted it.
Happy Hump Day!

20 comments:

  1. Still one of my all time favorite posts too. You are one heck of a writer, Bonnie! And you sure know how to make a person feel sentimental and gooey too!!

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  2. I remember when you posted this! I love it too. Marriage is simply sweet!

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  3. I love this, it truly is the little things which make it so special

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  4. So sweet! Reminded me, after 14 years of marriage, that I still feel like that. Thank you ;)

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  5. I thought this was familiar! Must be one of my favorites of yours, too, because I immediately thought, haven't I read this before? So great!

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  6. LOVE this. it's so so true. After 3 years of marriage and almost 7 years of dating, all of this definitely struck a chord with me!

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  7. Awwww This is so true! Glad you reposted it! Hadn't seen it before!

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  8. This post brought a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes!! This is so raw and honest and beautiful and inspiring.... really hope I have a marriage as wonderful as yours one day!!

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  9. I love this on so many levels.

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  10. This is so sweet and so true! My absolute favorite thing about marriage is that he is my best friend and we know each other so well!

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  11. Great post! Exactly what my marriage is and I couldn't be happier. We all need mushy days sometimes to remember why we love that person we can get so mad at sometimes ;)

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  12. ahhh I teared up. this is word for word my relationship with Jake! I love love love love love it!

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  13. This is such a wonderful post! So sweet and so honest! I think there are many of us who can relate! Thanks for reposting it! :)

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  14. I love this. So much.

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  15. I absolutely love this post! Do you mind if I adapt it sometime to talk about my relationship with my boyfriend? Of course, I would absolutely credit you and this post as inspiration! I hope you and your family are doing well!

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  16. THIS IS SO SO SO LOVELY.

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  17. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this! I am not married yet but I can't wait to be because of amazing posts like this!

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  18. I love this so much! Thank you for reposting so I could see it as a semi-new follower. :)

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  19. Yep that sounds about right!! That is exactly how I feel marriage is!

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