The Life of Bon: To be married

Monday, October 07, 2013

To be married



A few nights ago I couldn't find my toothbrush, but Greg's toothbrush was (for whatever odd reason) lying on the bedroom floor, so I picked it up and brushed my teeth with it.  No harm no foul, right?

And then it dawned on me.  What a weird thing. To live with a boy who is sometimes smelly and always nice, and then  find his toothbrush on the floor and just up and use it.  Shucks! This is what it is to be married?  To exchange knowing looks across a crowd full of people. To argue over what kind of dog to get.  To learn a new recipe because it's his favorite. To wait for him before you watch your favorite new episode on Hulu.  To stand up for him. To beg for a massage. To get so mad at him you could scream. To clean the whole house and buy decorations and wait for him to get home and notice. To wonder when you are going to have babies. To tell him to stop spending so much. To miss him when you haven't talked for eight hours. To laugh at an inside joke. To know exactly what his hand feels like in yours.  To yell at him to get into the other lane. To take a hot bath with him. To beg him to go to a wedding reception with you. To feel pride when he eats all the food you have cooked. To pray for his happiness. To watch Transformers with him even though you hate that movie.  To have a favorite restaurant together. To throw his clothes in the laundry. To ask him to pick up a diet coke for you on his way home.  To tell him to turn off the damn alarm.  To run your fingers through his hair. To plead with him not to get mad when you lose the keys. To make all big life decisions together. To put his name on all of your "emergency contact" forms. To feel his disappointment as your own. To laugh at his stupid jokes.  To feel safe when he is there. To swear at him when he beats you in tennis. To beg forgiveness when you hurt his feelings. To ask what he thinks of your new haircut. To record a basketball game on TV for him. To wear a dress because you know he likes the way it looks on you. To go to dinner with his parents. To know his smell. To follow him around the house arguing that you are right and he is wrong. To give him the hamburgers to throw on the grill. To know who his favorite actor is. To complain that he's hogging all the covers. To pick up his towel off the floor. To show him a new favorite song that you love. To plan your life around his and his around yours. To steal quarters out of his pants pocket. To get mad at him for being late. To make him late.  To pick up his favorite candy bar at the store. To spoon in the morning. To listen to him tell stories to your niece. To go for a run together. To tell him he's the most stubborn person you've ever met. To take his last name. To painfully create a budget together. To hope he doesn't notice when you buy a new pair of shoes. To sip from his soda at the movie theater. To give love. To receive love. To always be his number one priority.

This is what it is to be married.


56 comments:

  1. I love this, I love this, I love this. So perfect.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I read every single word in this post and absolutely loved it. It is so sweet, thoughtful, and insanely truthful all at the same time! One of my favorite posts of yours :)

    Bri
    breezydaysblog.com

    ReplyDelete
  3. This is beautiful, Bonnie! I love it, and it shows how much love you two share!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Yes, love all those things about being married! Great post!

    ReplyDelete
  5. This is absolutely beautiful. It's such a wonderfully realistic and palpable view of marriage...one that makes you think about and appreciate all of the seemingly little nuances.
    Thank you for this!!

    Erica
    ericaligenza.wordpress.com

    ReplyDelete
  6. Love love loved this! I've only been married for six months, but it is the absolute best. I never would have guessed all of the little things that become you when get married.

    ReplyDelete
  7. This is my favorite post of yours for sure! Love this!

    ReplyDelete
  8. This is my favorite post of yours for sure! Love this!

    ReplyDelete
  9. I am getting married in February and your post has me SO excited about marriage. I have known my fiance since we were twelve, but I feel like I am going to learn so much. This definitely has me anxious for these next couple of months to fly!

    ReplyDelete
  10. this is so true, and so sweet. I started tearing up a little. marriage is so sweet, isn't it?

    ReplyDelete
  11. Yes, yes, yes. This is what being married is.

    ReplyDelete
  12. obsessed with this.

    ReplyDelete
  13. I think it could also be titled "To be in a loving relationship...." because Chris and I aren't married but we experience this stuff day after day after having lived together for 3 years. But now I'm just being difficult. To Be Married has a better ring to it, anyway... pun intended.

    ReplyDelete
  14. I don't think you could have made this any better if you had tried! So perfect!!

    ReplyDelete
  15. I keep trying to convince myself that being single is awesome... But dang girl! This makes me want a guy!

    ReplyDelete
  16. I can relate to it totally....so nice and perfect.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Love this post. It is so true.

    ReplyDelete
  18. Beautiful post! I was nodding in agreement at every sentence you wrote :)
    Have a lovely day!

    ReplyDelete
  19. I love it! This is a truly wonderful post!

    ReplyDelete
  20. As a newly wed, I could already agree tomost of the sentences. Epsecially to the ones such "to feel pride when he eats all of your food" :)

    ReplyDelete
  21. I love this post! Thank you for sharing it, every sentence I was bobbing my head up and down even more. "Yup, Yup, Yup, that's us! Yup!" haha, thanks again, I LOVE your blog!!

    ReplyDelete
  22. Love it! Can't wait! 200 days to go! :)

    ReplyDelete
  23. so honest and simple yet complex! Love this and want to share it with my husband!

    ReplyDelete
  24. These words are so perfect! Just making me miss my husband even more since he is on a business trip right now (which is pretty pathetic, he's only been gone for three hours and he comes back tomorrow night. I'm a big baby).

    ReplyDelete
  25. I'm not married yet but have been with my boyfriend 6 years next week, and I love your post! :)

    Fiona
    www.greenlovinggirl.com

    ReplyDelete
  26. Well this is adorable, even the not so good stuff, is lovely.

    ReplyDelete
  27. That about sums it up :D

    ReplyDelete
  28. I love this!! So perfect!

    ReplyDelete
  29. This is everything I've ever thought the perfect marriage should be. Perfectly imperfect, unique and heartwarming. I aspire to this. Thank you for helping us single girls keep the hope alive.

    ReplyDelete
  30. Love love love this post so much!! The good and the bad, it's all marriage. And it's why I'm married.

    ReplyDelete
  31. Oh how I love this post!

    ReplyDelete
  32. Oh my gosh this made me want to cry it is so sweet! This is EXACTLY how I feel about my boyfriend of three years. We have an apartment together and I just wrote a post about the little things that make love everything.

    I love love this.

    Amanda Rose
    http://sewmuchtosay.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  33. I love this. And I think it's totally acceptable to pick up his toothbrush from the floor and use it. I would've done the same thing :)

    ReplyDelete
  34. I swear it's like you read my mind!!!

    ReplyDelete
  35. I love this! I got teary reading it. Y'all sound remarkably like us. Isn't marriage great?? :)

    ReplyDelete
  36. What I'm still wondering about is why Greg's toothbrush was on the bedroom floor. Not even the bathroom floor. The bedroom. Of all places. Did he stick it in his pocket for mobile toothbrushery and lose it on his way to the kitchen? Did mischievous bathroom gnomes ferry it off the edge of the sink? Was it ACTUALLY Greg's toothbrush? Does the Larsen household utilize toothbrushes for teeth and toothbrushes for toilet detailing? In which case, is Bonnie suffering from bleach and potty poisoning?

    Princess Burlap
    www.princessburlap.com

    ReplyDelete
  37. This is amazing, I LOVE it. This is so what marriage is. Thanks for sharing!! :)

    ReplyDelete
  38. oh I love this! sooo good. every word of it. It's all so true!

    ReplyDelete
  39. Oh this just tugged on my heart strings! LOVE THIS SO MUCH!

    ReplyDelete
  40. Beautiful!!! Seriously brought tears to my eyes! :)

    ReplyDelete
  41. Beautiful Bonnie.

    http://brasshoney.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  42. This is so beautiful. Love it!

    ReplyDelete
  43. Oh, I just love this post so much! Marriage is such a fun, wonderful part of life for each one of those reasons.

    ReplyDelete
  44. this is probably one of my favorite posts of your so far. as i've started dating more seriously and people around me start getting married i've put a lot of thought into what i want in a spouse and what it is to be married. this makes it sound so sweet and quirky (and a little weird at times, but maybe thats just you ;)
    xoxo, lauren
    1sweetfairytale.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  45. I love this. I love it when ya just write :)

    ReplyDelete
  46. I love this. It's so strange how close you become, and how using their toothbrush (off of the floor, no less) doesn't even seem odd at all! :)

    ReplyDelete
  47. i love love love LOVEd this post! So sweet!

    ReplyDelete
  48. LOVE! Major love!

    ReplyDelete