BYU graduation, 2010
I heard on the radio this morning that Sandra Bullock gave a graduation speech at a high school in New Orleans this week. The premise of the speech was this: If you could go back and tell your graduating self something, what would it be?
I really like what good old Sandy said. Turns out she's got some great advice rolled up her sleeve. She said:
Stop worrying so much. We worry over stuff that will never happen and the stuff that does happen we never even thought to worry about. You never remember any of the moments where you were worrying, so that is time you can never get back.
Nothing's a failure, it's just not supposed to work out that way. Something better is supposed to work out.
Eat something green every day.
Don't pick your nose in public.
When someone you care about hugs you, hug them back. With two arms.
If someone doesn't want to play with you, it's okay. Not everyone is going to love you. Find someone who does want to play with you and who appreciates what you have to offer
I love Sandra's advice. I think it's spot on. If someone asked me the same question, this is what advice I would add...
Put good energy out into the world and it will somehow find its way back to you.
Learn early on how to make good friends of your same gender. You don't get to keep you group of guy friends after you get married, but girlfriends you can have until the day you die. One of the most important skills you can develop is how to build and take care of relationships. This will serve you your entire life. (I always think it is somewhat troubling/ disturbing when a girl boasts that all of her friends are guys and that she gets along SOOOO much better with guys than girls.)
Don't ditch the important people in your life when you get married. Remember, a lot of those relationships existed long before you even knew your spouse was alive.
Asking questions makes you appear smarter, not dumber.
Be happy for other people's successes and you'll have more success of your own.
The world doesn't owe you anything. Stop expecting "payment" and you'll stop being disappointed. Treat everything as a "bonus". It makes you a much more grateful person. (When I complained in high school that everyone else got to drive a car to school but me, my dad would always say, "Driving a car is a privilege, not a right." I hated that saying at the time, but now I love it. I think that same attitude should carry over into almost every facet of our lives.)
Give people the benefit of the doubt.
Make a serious effort to call people back, email people back, and text people back. It's just polite.
What would you add to the list? I'm so interested to hear your comments. What is the best advice you have been given/ tried to live by/ one thing you wish you knew when you were graduating?