A few months ago a facebook friend of mine posted that her husband got all As for the semester. I can't exactly tell you why, but the status bothered me.
And so, I wrote a facebook status rebuttal, if you will. It said something along the lines of "The only thing more annoying than bragging about your good grades on facebook is bragging about your husband's good grades on facebook."
Thankfully, my brother called me out on it. Gosh, I'm lucky to have brothers. (I realize that sounds sarcastic, but I say it in earnest.)
He wrote me a very kind private message on facebook and basically said he thinks it's great that we celebrate accomplishments- whether they be ours or our spouses'. I celebrate when Greg gets the lead in a play, my brother's wife celebrates when he runs a marathon, etc. He said that he likes the positivity of these posts, and being there's so much negativity, suffering, hardship, etc in the world, there's nothing wrong with celebrating achievements or successes. In other words, let people brag. He also said that my status didn't make me seem like a very nice person. I thought about it for a few minutes and decided I agreed with him. So I took it down.
I was reminded of all this today when I read Kym's post about celebrating achievements. Facebook and social media have done something weird to us, I believe. We are paranoid about what we can share. This is too personal, this is too braggy, this is too complainy, this is too boring, this is oversharing, this is too vague. (Articles like this one criticize practically ever possibly thing you could ever want to share on social media.) I admit that, like when reading the status of her husband's grades a few months ago, I have been annoyed especially by the braggy facebook statuses. "Hey! You or someone close to you did something awesome/ reached a new goal/ had great success? Good now shut up!"
I'm not proud of this attitude of mine, I just realize that it was kind of there... a slight annoyance of anyone sharing a celebration of facebook or any social media outlet. If I really want to go all psychologist on myself I would probably tell you that it stems from my own insecurities and doubts and struggles and fears. Isn't that what it always stems from? I don't care who you are, there is struggle and fear in all of us so perhaps more than anything we can all relate to being annoyed by a brag. Somehow we think it brings us down when others achieve.
I'll never forget the night about a year ago when I went to an improv workshop with Greg taught by Dave Rozowsky. Strangely enough, he taught a lot of life lessons. One of the ones that stuck out the most to me was that he said that we have to give up on the idea that success or happiness is going to run out. It isn't. Just because one person buys a house doesn't mean all the houses are gone and now I can't buy a house. One person's pregnancy doesn't mean we're out of pregnancies for the year. One person's healthy body doesn't mean there aren't any more healthy bodies for me. There is enough. There will always be enough.
There. Is. Enough.
Admittedly, I have been a bit worried since I got pregnant that people may be annoyed by my pregnancy posts or updates. Maybe I'm overdoing it? But gosh dang it, I'm excited! So should I not show that excitement because others think it's annoying? A blogger friend of mine just suffered a miscarriage. Should I not post about feeling my baby move inside of me? My cousin just got pregnant with her third boy, should I not say I'm stoked about having a girl? The online world is so hard to navigate, and especially, it seems when you are happy.
I guess I think we all need to stop it with that crap. Let's let people brag! Life is hard enough even with all of our great accomplishments. So why hide them? Successes and celebrations are what make life worth living.
And so, I declare this an official brag safe zone. Let's let the best bragging session of our lives begin. I will start and brag to my heart's content about me and the people in my life. Then it's your turn, brag to me in the comments about why your life is awesome. I can't wait to hear them and I hope to be reading braggy comments all weekend long.
I ran a mile today! I have stayed healthy and energized and am gaining a healthy amount of weight in my pregnancy! In other words, I'm not too fat yet!
I'm going to Europe in two months!
My husband surprised me with KFC tonight which is my favorite. He's a good husband who makes an efforts to do little things like this for me all the time.
My mom is an incredible woman- she lost my dad unexpectedly four years ago but hasn't let that get her down at all. She lives a life of service and never acts disadvantaged or victimized. She is giving and a great listener. She is the strongest person I know.
My husband is very good looking. He has a fast metabolism and a strong jawline. He has a full head of hair. He is better looking than any of the boys I used to date or have crushes on.
Two of my brothers are really fast runners. They both qualified for the Boston marathon. Wow!
My third brother is winning a fitness competition at his work because his body fat percentage is so low.
My fourth brother (four brothers!) is an awesome lawyer who does his best to get me out of all my speeding tickets. He is a very quiet, likeable guy who everyone loves.
My little sister is a genius. She got a 34 on the ACT and is graduating from college in biochemisty or something equally ridiculous in April.
My oldest sister is a terrific writer. She inspires me to keep writing. She also makes the best salads I've ever had.
My other sister (three sisters!) lives in Germany. This week she gets to go to Israel. She has lived all over the United States and Europe and gets to travel and see so many cool places that I will only dream of.
My high school friend has launched one of the most successful projects on kickstarter ever. He's going to be a millionaire. Go dinos!
My best friend was able to quit teaching and now makes the same amount if not more from her etsy jewelry business.
My student teacher is doing so great in the classroom. She gets better and more confident every day. The students really like her. She has an interview on Monday and I know she will easily land a teaching job.
I'm going to Arizona in two weeks to visit all my college homies! I have awesome girlfriends who I have been able to maintain close relationships with. I'm so grateful for my friends!
Wow! It feels so good to