The Life of Bon

Saturday, July 20, 2013

A good old fashioned writing post

From L to R, Aubrey, me, Kimberly, Melinda, Chelsea

It's Saturday at noon and it feels a bit weird to be writing a blog post on Saturday at noon but the facts are that my husband is playing 18 rounds of golf in 100 degree weather and I am sitting in an air conditioned home and my fingers are begging me to write.  So write I will.

On Thursday night I sat at a table with these four adorable girls and we talked all things blog.  I have been tempted to give up on the Bloggers Roundtable- at least for the summer.  Too much other stuff going on. That afternoon, when three girls cancelled because other stuff had come up,  the effort required to gather people together seemed too much for me.

But then Aubrey, Kimberly, Melinda, and Chelsea showed up and we had the best dang two hours of blog conversation, and I felt so uplifted and inspired and motivated that I thought to myself how blessed I am to have these crazy blogging opportunities.

The overall feeling I had coming away from Thursday's roundtable was that I blog to write.  That's why I started, but sometimes it becomes a bit convoluted and messy what with sponsorships and paid campaigns and all that jazz.  It felt good to re see my focus.  To write.  To tell stories.  To connect.

So today I'm going to write.  Not about anything particular, but I'm going to take to my blog and just write out my thoughts like I did in the first days and months of this blog's existence.

This week Greg and I signed a year lease for an apartment.  We have been living with my mom for the past year (what lead us to my mom's basement here and here) and it's time to live on our own again.  I never imagined that living at my mom's would be the huge blessing that it has been.  It's funny sometimes how we make plans and then God just kind of throws them all out the window and takes us down a different path. I've been extremely grateful to be closer than ever with my mom this year and to see Greg and my mom's relationship flourish.  It has indeed been a blessing.

But it's time to move on.  I do believe we've over stayed our welcome.  Greg and I found a one bedroom apartment in Lehi with granite countertops, a pantry (gasp!) and even a walk in closet (double gasp!)  It'll cost us a pretty penny, probably a penny prettier than we should spend, in fact, but we're excited.  We would have been able to resist if it weren't for what I saw in the bathroom.

A honking huge bathtub.

That was when I grabbed the contract, scribbled my name on the dotted line, and threw the deposit money down.  This apartment would be ours.  It's weird to put money down for big bathtubs, I admit, but I know myself well enough.  Come winter I'll be trudging home every day from school and soaking in hot bubble baths with my books.  Well, the books wouldn't be soaking with me, but you get the picture, right?  It's about the only thing that gets me through January and February.  We all have our coping mechanisms, people.

It doesn't hurt that the apartment is the perfect location, right next to the freeway and only 10-15 minutes away from my work.  After two and a half years of 45-60 minute commutes I think I can get used to being 10 minutes away.

Oh, and it has a balcony.  A balcony so I can get back to my people watching and sun sitting ways.  I mean, hey, it was thanks to a balcony that my husband entered my life.  I think it's time to bring balconies back into my life.  Maybe this balcony will bring a baby into my life?  No?  Too much?  Ok.

The annoying thing is we can't move in until August 27 because that's when the apartment will be ready.  I already start teaching again on August 19 and August 27 is a Tuesday.  Nothing sounds fun about moving on a hot Tuesday in August after having taught all day.  Beer me strength.  (And ten points if you know that reference.)

If we're talking about starting school up again I guess I should tell you I'm a little scared to start teaching at a new place.  After three years at Copper Hills I was friends with the teachers and the students all liked me and sometimes when I think about starting all over again, wow, it sounds exhausting.  But I'm hip, right?  Those seventeen year olds will like me, won't they?  I'll have to paint my fingernails black and wear cute shoes and then surely I will win them over?

In other news, I've been a bit frustrated this month as my blog readership has been drastically down.  I try to not care about that stuff, but how do you make yourself not care about something you so obviously care about?  I'm trying to figure out if it's just the normal summer slump or the quality of my writing has gone down or some kind of terrible combination of the two.

My mom is in Germany this week visiting my sister who just gave birth with no epidural to a nine pound baby.  Sounds miserable, huh?  My mom told my sister not to tell me about how rough the delivery was because then I would never want to have kids.  Yes, the women in my family are scheming against me.

I miss my sister.  She hasn't lived in the same state as me for ten years and she hasn't lived in the same country as me for four of those years. Wouldn't it be nice if we could make people live exactly where we wanted them to live?

My mom's dog, Buddy, is on my last nerve.  I like this dog, I do.  After living with him for one year I have grown surprisingly attached.  But then he barks when I'm trying to sleep and chews up carpet and humps other dogs and I thought I loved him but now he's driving me insane.  I wonder if that's how people feel about their kids?  Maybe if their kids chewed up carpet and humped dogs...

Tomorrow I am going to play Risk with my husband and maybe my mother in law.  Everyone hates Risk except me.  But Greg got four hours of golf this morning so I get four hours of board game domination tomorrow.  Fair trade, right?

Over and out.

P.S.  If you're into free stuff this $50 Instagram giveaway ends on Monday.  All you have to do is like @thelifeofbon on Instagram to enter.

P.P.S.  This $100 gift card to Albion Fit has way low entries meaning odds are good for winning.  Enter!




Thursday, July 18, 2013

Let's get our swim on!

Guess what we're doing today, folks?  We're giving away a $100 swimsuit.  Who doesn't want a $100 swimsuit?!?

Albion Fit is a company whose "fitness and swimwear balance style, modesty, performance, and quality in a beautiful way."  Basically they take women's fitness and swimwear and workout clothing that's super functional and make it cute, too.  Genuis, right?




I'm pretty sure if I had this little tennis skirt Greg would want to play tennis with me a lot more often, what do you think?

I got to test out one of Albion Fit's swimsuits and I'm here to say, they're the real deal!  I like to play in the sun and I have a season pass to the water park (Don't be jealous of my summers off!) so I spend a lot of time in swimsuits during the summer.  This is how Albion Fit's "heartbreaker" swimsuit compares:

  • It is tight enough that I feel like nothing is going to fall out.  I have a few swimsuits that when I wear I am constantly checking the top because they hang too low and aren't a tight enough fit.   This one hugs nicely so everything stays put.
  • With most suits the "stay put" I feel like you sacrifice the style for the functionality.  Not this one.   I loved the ruffle on the suit, the crisscross back, the skinny straps, and the cupping for the... ahem... bosoms.
  • A one piece suit in bright red?   I pretty much feel like a baywatch lifeguard when I wear this.  Hubba hubba!
  • This is the first one piece that I have owned in probably close to ten years and I honestly could not have been happier with it.  I could completely forget about the suit and just go crazy playing in the water.





You ready to win your own suit?  All you gotta do is like AlbionFit on facebook and pin your favorite item.  Oh- and make sure to leave a comment with the link to what you pinned.  Good luck!

Because Albion Fit is awesome they are also doing a discount for you all.  You can get $15 off any order over $50 with the code lifeofbon15.  That's 30% off!  I might just have to crack and by that tennis skirt!

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Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Throwback Thursday: Moving away from home

Welcome to another round of Throwback Thursdays, folks!  I hope you are having as much fun as I am throwing it back.  I have been reading old journals and looking at tons of old pictures... so fun to walk down memory lane.  For those of you who are joining us for the first time, here's the rundown.

A SUMMER OF THROWBACK THURSDAYS
BLOG STYLE


Here's how it works:

1.  Every Thursday through August we'll be throwing it back here at thelifeofbon.com.  We want to see pictures of course, but we want the stories that go behind those pictures even more!  And because I'm a total control freak, I've even mapped out a nice little schedule for all of us.  I figure the prompts will make it easier to come up with something to write about every week.

TH  6/13  A memory of learning to drive, your first car or the early driving days.
TH  6/20  Elementary school crush
TH  6/27  Throwback birthday
TH  7/4   Throwback fourth of July
TH  7/11  First job
TH  7/18  Moving away from home
TH  7/25  Memory of one or both of your parents from childhood
TH  8/1   Favorite summer vacation
TH  8/8   Childhood friends
TH  8/15  First kiss
TH  8/22  Memory of a high school teacher or high school class
TH  8/29  Back to school memory


THROWBACK THURSDAY WEEK FIVE:  
MOVING AWAY FROM HOME

My freshman roommates.  We took "family pictures."  We were so weird.

I moved away from home in August of 2004.  I had graduated in May, turned 18 in June, and was now ready to be out totally on my own.  Looking back, it's weird to me that I was only 18 and living on my own, but at the time I thought I was so old.

I didn't love high school and I thought the town I grew up in, Price, was super ghetto.  I couldn't wait to get out of that place.  (Which is weird- now I look back on my Price memories with great affection."  My goal growing up had always been to go to BYU.  I dreamed about it, saved up money for it, counted down the days until I would go.  I had never wanted something so much in my whole life.

Interestingly enough, when the move actually happened I was terrified.  I moved to Provo, an hour and a half away from Price.  My mom drove me up with all my boxes and I remember when it was time for her to go I was pleading in my head for her to say.  I don't know why, but those first days I was so homesick.  So so homesick.  I was convinced my roommates were boring prudes that I would never get along with (I ended up loving them, of course) and that I was dumb to ever want to leave Price.  I guess that's the way it is in life. You want something so bad and then as soon as you get it, you want what you used to have.

I've got a great journal entry that describes my first day at college.  Be ye warned:  I was quite the drama queen:

September 6, 2004

I always imagined moving into my dorn room, unpacking with my roommate, getting to know each other, laughing, music playing, etc.  This was nothing like it.  I was all by myself, my stereo didn't work, and I was completely miserable.  I had no idea where any of my roommates had vanished to.  I attempted to hang pictures on my wall, but they kept falling down and crashing.  I couldn't find one of my bozes or my cell phone and I was tripping over all sorts of crap.  I took one box of stuff to unload in the bathroom and there found a note that Mary (my little sister) had left for me.  On it she had made a list of "50 reasons I will miss you."  This was the breaking point for me.  I sat there on the bathroom floor with makeup and hair stuff all around and just bawled and bawled.  Mary's letter was so sweet and it made me miss her and home so much.  I was absolutely miserable and didn't want to be at college anymore.  It is so frustrating when everything you have worked for and looked forward to your whole life all of a sudden isn't what you thought it would be.

Given, that was the first day.  Within a week I was fine.

The roommate I still keep in touch with the most- Holly.  
(The first two or three years I had this blog she was the only person who read it.)

Things that I loved the most about moving away from home:
- I could eat cereal three meals a day.
- I could stay out as late as I wanted.
- No one made me clean my room.
- I felt like I was hanging out with friends all day every day.

Things I missed the most about home:
- Sunday dinners with my family.
- Our big yard to go outside and enjoy.  The dorm room left me feeling very confined.
- Having my own room and always feeling like I had space
- The house always being clean.
- Home cooking.
- My little sister.
- Having a piano.

Interesting that the things I loved about being away from home (not having to clean my room) were also the things that I missed about home (having the house clean.)  Ain't that weird the way it works?

End of freshman year, taking our 7 foot couch back to the thrift store from whence it came.  We had some good memories on that bad boy.

Oh- one last thing.  I remember the first month or so in my dorm room my two roommates, Holly and Jess, talking about this thing called facebook.  They kept getting on there and looking at people they knew and I thought, "Why would you look at them on the computer when you could just go hang out with them?"  My, how far we have come!

Alright, now it's time for you to tell me your first move out stories.  Where did you move to?  Were you scared?  Excited?  How old were you?  Link up, darlings!


Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Some blogs you NEED to be reading.

July is an interesting month, isn't it?  It feels like half the world is bored to tears and the other half of the world is backpacking Europe or swimming with dolphins.  In some ways it feels like the bloggy world has been slow.  Like people are so busy with their summer adventures that they don't have time for blogging.  And yet, in some ways I feel like people have more time for reading non-nonsensical blogs than ever.  Hot, lazy afternoons to kill, long nights to read blogs to their heart's content.  And so, I have for you a few blogs you might want to add to your reader.  These are some favorites of mine, all for different reasons.  These women are terrific writers and I believe do an exceptionally good job at portraying who they are on to their blog.  Enjoy reading, and I hope you find some new friends.

(On a side note: I planned one hour for this post and it ended up taking me three because I just kept reading and reading and reading these girls' blogs.  They really are terrific.)

EVERYTHING ERICA LOVES


Erica's blog reads almost more like a journal- like she's just opening up her head to me and telling me what's going on in her life.  And I like it that way.  There are so many blogs that I read, but feel like I don't know the writer at all- Erica is the opposite.  She lets it all out, she's got funny, original thoughts, and you leave feeling like you are besties.  She's a fellow high school teacher, so you know she's gotta be totally hip.  My favorite posts are her Lies I tells my students and Lies I tell on facebook.  Basically this girl lies a lot.



THE SMASHBOOK


Charissa's blog leaves me wanting to be a better person.  Like I should do better at saying I love you and noticing the beauty around me.  Her blog has such a beautiful and inspirational energy, and yet she keeps it amazingly simple.  She takes gorgeous pictures as well as has a crisp, clean design.  I especially loved her post describing her gratitude practice and her thoughts about just picking up and leaving to live a life full of passion.  She is beautiful.



KISSES AND CROISSANTS


Patricia is an American beauty living the dream in France right now.  I know-  try not to be too jealous.  She writes about her life in France, but she doesn't limit it to just that.  I laughed out loud at her Five Idiots you shouldn't feel obligated to date post . (And on another note, why does dating suck so bad?!?) Also, you know how all bloggers love blog posts about blogging?  Patricia linked all blogging advice posts up in one place for us- over 70 posts!  I have it bookmarked for when I need a little push.  This girl is a total blog package- I seriously adore her.



UNENCUMBERED WORDS


Jenna blogs from the heart and isn't afraid to say what's on her mind, whether it be easy to write or not.  I feel like Jenna is the type of person who you could sit down and have a conversation with and think every three seconds, "Wow, I never thought of it that way!" "I never thought of it that way!"  She is extremely thoughtful in her ideas and her writing.  I loved her post about her baby being a good sleeper, (next time someone asks her if her baby is a good sleeper, she is going to reply, "Are you?") and I especially appreciate her willingness to be open about her struggle with clinical depression.  She has some beautiful posts that will really open your eyes.



THE OTHER JULIETTE


Juliette is living the single carefree life on California's sunny shores.  Her blog is upbeat and fun and full of moving pictures that go "ewww" over and over.  (Will someone please explain to me how those even work?)  Instead of writing a list of traits she wants in a man like most women, Juliette wrote a list of things she absolutely can't have in a guy.  Loud chewers made the list!  Sorry, Juliette, I guess we could never be married.  I might just have to steal her most recent post idea of things I'm really really good at- her talents (like falling asleep in random places) are seriously golden!  

Monday, July 15, 2013

The weirdest (and easiest!) giveaway you will ever see in blogland.

ANNOUNCING...

THE EASIEST GIVEAWAY YOU WILL EVER ENTER


I've decided to do something kind of crazy and definitely weird.  Don't ask me my reasons because I ain't sure yet that I know what they are, all I know is that it felt good to have a giveaway that is only for instagram.

All you gotta do is follow @thelifeofbon on instagram for a chance to enter.  Probably the easiest giveaway in the history of giveaways.  No twitter, No GFC, No comments, just good old instagram.

You can share on your social media accounts for an extra entry.  You can get up to three extra entries by sharing. (Either by sharing on the same outlet on different days or different outlets same day. Whatever floats your boat, people.)  Make sure you mention me (@thelifeofbon) so that I see it and count it as an extra entry.

Easy enough?  Enter here.  Now you're done.

Oh, and I've still got a couple of spots open for this blogger bananza going down on Thursday night.



Food, blog strategy, and meeting blog besties.  What more could you want?  More information here.  Hit me up at thelifeofbon@gmail.com if you are interested!

How's that for the most random blog post you ever read?  HOW IS THAT?!?

Sunday, July 14, 2013

It's someone's birthday...!


Today is this boy's birthday.  He's turning the big 25 and if that ain't a reason to go buck wild with celebration, I don't know what is anymore!

One of the difficulties of language is that it is sometimes incapable of describing the depths of our emotions.  There are not always words to convey feelings.  How can simple words explain everything this boy means to me?

But I'll try.

Greg is my rock that is always constant and that I can trust with anything, who I know would never lie, would always do what is right.

He is my best friend who jokes and does accents and crazy voices and makes me laugh until my tummy hurts.

He is my teacher who corrects me when I'm acting like a brat who shows me how to treat people you love who is kind and loving even when someone doesn't deserve it who even taught me to love dogs.

He is my support who goes along with any crazy scheme I might have who encourages me to write and blog and teach crazy seventeen year olds and do anything my little heart desires.

He is my playmate who goes fishing with me and takes me to the water park and plays a hundred and one board games with me because he knows I love games.

He is my provider who makes future plans with me who yearns for a house full of babies who sacrifices his own wants and dreams for a stable career field and a family of our own.

He is my lover who scratches my back and tells me I'm beautiful and kisses me softly and promises to grow old with me.

He is my favorite travel partner who bikes around Paris with me and jumps off rocks with me in Mexico and even hikes a waterfall with me in Hawaii.

He is my intellectual partner who analyzes books and movies with me and listens and approves my teaching ideas and shares my passion for Shakespeare.

He is my spiritual giant who shows me what it really means to have a love of God and fellow men, who has the biggest heart of any man I've ever known, who would give the shirt off his back for someone in need.

He is my everything.



Happy Birthday, love!

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Summer: What I read.

Well, folks, we're about dang near half way through the summer and I've been reading up a storm.  There is something very romantic about summer nights where you don't have to wake up early and can stay up as late as you want reading.  (Except for that Greg keeps complaining that my light keeps him up and is begging me to switch to a nook or kindle instead of the old fashioned way.  I just can't bring myself to do it.  Am I being a stubborn mule?  Should I just convert?  I feel like the magic of books is lost when I'm reading on a tablet.... ah, but that's a whole nother topic, ain't it?!?)

Moving on... I thought I'd share with you what I've been reading and what you should be reading.  


1.  The Help by Kathryn Stockett.  I first read this book three years ago, but it's one I have been so excited to re read because it is on my top ten favorite books of all time.  I'm so glad you all chose it for July's book club selection!  (If you haven't started reading, get cracking.  You've got 20 days- discussion is on July 31).  You know when you see a friend that you haven't seen for years, and you're just so dang excited to be hanging out with them?  And they start to tell you this hilarious story that you've already heard before but even though you know how the story ends, you're just so excited to hear the story again because it's them telling it?  Like the story itself isn't even that important, it's the telling of the story that's so magical?  That's how I feel with The Help.  I know everything that happens, but enjoying the way the story is told is what it's all about for me.  Five out of five stars for this bad boy!



2.  Sarah's Quilt by Nancy Turner.  This is the sequel to These is My Words which I read two years ago and LOVED.  The sequel's just alright.  It's kind of like the author just tried to cram every crazy thing that could happen in one person's life into one book.  It was too much.  And I hated the title of it.  Made me feel like a real sissy pants when I was reading it, you know?  Two and a half stars out of five.




3.  The House on Mango Street by Sandra Ciserneros.  This book I read because it is one of the options to teach at my new school next year.  The book is really short, which I know will win the students over.  It's basically just small sketches into the life of a Latina American as she tries to be true to her culture and heritage while living growing up in Chicago.  It's great for teaching because the chapters are uber short (1-2 pages), but it still gives you lots to think and discuss.  I didn't especially love reading it because it doesn't exactly have a plot... It's more like images or sketches.  I prefer books where it is building to something, but for teaching I think I will really enjoy this.  Three and a half stars out of five.



4.  The Bean Trees by Barbara Kingsolver .  I also read this book because it was in the book closet at my new school, and I was trying to figure out if I would want to teach this to students.  The answer is no.  It is way too slow, way too depressing, and is basically only about women.  Now don't get me wrong, I love me a good girl power story, (The Help, for example) but I know enough then to make a bunch of 17 year old boys read a book about sisterhood and women finding their way and dealing with life's trials.  It was a chore for me to get through, and if I hate it then I know I won't be able to teach it worth a crap.  It's too bad because I love Kingsolver's other book, Poisonwood Bible, but The Bean Trees was just way too slow.  Two stars out of five.



5.  The Paris Wife by Paula McLain.  This book is about Ernest Hemingway's first wife, Hadley.  I love reading about this era (1920s... Great Gatsby and Midnight in Paris era) so just the setting alone was very interesting to me.  Some of the story is fictionalized but much of it is true... all based off of the history of these two.  Their marriage is SO interesting.  Ernest Hemingway is about a weird a guy as they come, (he had four wives, eventually shot himself) making this story was totally fascinating to me.  I couldn't put it down.  I recommend it for a vacation or book read because it is very easy to get through.  Four stars out of five.



6.  The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin.  I first posted about this here.  Basically the author works for a year on being happier in her day to day life.  Each month she focuses on a new area in her life like organization or marriage.  The first four months that she describes are SUPER interesting.  By about June, though,  it starts to feel kind of redundant and slow.  I got through it fine, but it did lag a bit at the end.  The part I always skipped over, interestingly enough, was when she would insert comments from her blog readers.  I don't know why that annoyed me so much because I love YOUR comments on my blog.  I guess I wanted to hear her research and thoughts on it, not a bunch of random blog readers.  I did take away a ton from that book, though.  The two things I always think about are 1) "Act the way I want to feel."  So even when I'm grumpy I still need to act pleasant and happy, and then I will start to feel more that way.  And 2) If it takes less than a minute do it now.  This has seriously changed my life.  I think of it in terms of responding to email right when I read it, washing the bowl right after I eat something, hang up my skirt right after I take it off..  It really adds up and makes me feel way more in control of my life. Four stars out of five.

Phew!  Now... What have YOU been reading?  Tell me some good summer reads.  After I finish The Help I plan on reading Beautiful Ruins which I picked up for no other reason than that I saw that E Tells Tales was reading it, and Z which is about Zelda Fitzgerald... F. Scott Fitzgerald's (Great Gatsby author) wife.  I sure do love summer when I can read books for ME to my little heart's content.

READ ON!

Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Throwback Thursdays: First Job


A SUMMER OF THROWBACK THURSDAYS
BLOG STYLE


Here's how it works:

1.  Every Thursday through August we'll be throwing it back here at thelifeofbon.com.  We want to see pictures of course, but we want the stories that go behind those pictures even more!  And because I'm a total control freak, I've even mapped out a nice little schedule for all of us.  I figure the prompts will make it easier to come up with something to write about every week.

TH  6/13  A memory of learning to drive, your first car or the early driving days.
TH  6/20  Elementary school crush
TH  6/27  Throwback birthday
TH  7/4   Throwback fourth of July
TH  7/11  First job
TH  7/18  Moving away from home
TH  7/25  Memory of one or both of your parents from childhood
TH  8/1   Favorite summer vacation
TH  8/8   Childhood friends
TH  8/15  First kiss
TH  8/22  Memory of a high school teacher or high school class
TH  8/29  Back to school memory

2.  Follow www.thelifeofbon.com, slap that little button somewhere on your post, and link up your Throwback Thursday posts!  I'm so excited to read everybody's stories.

3.  Visit new blogs and make new blog friends.  No duh!


TODAY'S TOPIC:  FIRST JOB


My first job was working for my old man in his podiatry office.  For those of you who aren't well versed in the world of medicine, that's a foot doctor.  Growing up I often got asked why in the world anyone would want to be a foot doctor.  The jury's still out on that, people, but it's what my dad chose for a profession and at the ripe old age of 14 I got recruited to come assist in his office.  It was my summer job- I would go in every day for 1-5 and help file, clean up rooms, take patients back, help answer the phone, etc.  You know, rip roaring fun for a 14 year old.

Fourteen year old Bon.  I had yet to discover the miracle of teeth whitener and push up bras.

While it certainly wasn't the most exciting job, I'm so grateful that I worked in my dad's office because I got to see my dad in his work environment and spend more time with him.  I remember him showing me all the different tools, what they did, the different types of medicine.  My dad was loved so much by his patients.  It is weird as a teenager to go from seeing your dad as some old dad who doesn't have a clue to a well respected and liked man by almost everyone who comes in to his office.

I worked in my dad's office every summer until I graduated.  I think part of the reason why I was so close to my dad was because I had this extra time with him.  The summer I turned 16 I started going to Emery- about an hour drive- every Tuesday to help him in his clinic there.  That's the summer he taught me to drive a shift and I remember our talks on the way to and from the clinic- just the two of us.

I've got some real gems from my journal about working in my dad's office- some that are just hilarious and some that show the sweet experience it was to work with my pop:

June 7, 2000
Working in dad's office has its ups and downs.  I feel like I do everything wrong and Teresa (the office manager) is growing impatient with me.  It seems like everything is my fault, "Bonnie, what'd you do to the copy machine?  "Where'd you put Mary Mortenson's file?"  You know what I mean?  I suppose I'll get used to the way the office works, but for now I am very unsure of myself.

August 9, 2000
Today I was straightening up a room in the office and dad came in and said, "Do you want a dollar?" and I, thinking he wanted me to do him a favor said, "Why?" and he says, "Cuz I like you!"  Then he gave me one of those new dollar gold coins.  It made me feel so special!  I love my dad so much!  He always makes me feel so good inside!

May 31, 2001
Yesterday I worked 1-6 in the office.  My first day with patients with summer.  It was sooooo busy!  We were more than an hour behind!  It was a pretty good day at the office.  Mom and Mary were in Provo so dad and I went to Sherald's burger bar for dinner.  It was kind of fun.  I got a BLT, fries, fresh lime and an ice cream cone.  I love eating with dad because he lets me get anything I want!

July 29, 2001
Friday I had to work again.  I had SO much to do there!  Dictations, charts, statements, and cleaning.  I barely got done by 5:00 and I didn't even get Monday's charts pulled!

August 12, 2001
Today I have been so ornery.  I don't even know why.  When I was cleaning the room dad said to me, "Bonnie, you don't smile much anymore.  Are you happy?"  I didn't really know what to say.  I think today has just been a bad day for me.  Also, summer has been hard.  I'm the only one of friends who has a job, and it is hard always working.

August 21, 2001
Yesterday Teresa was sick so I worked 8:30-5:30 with only a 20 minute break for lunch.  I thought I was going to shoot myself.

June 10, 2002
Summer as a whole has been awesome so far.  I work in the mornings on Monday and Wednesday, the afternoons on Tuesday and Thursday, and not at all Fridays. I love this arrangement.  It's enough hours that I still get the money I want but I'm not always working.  I work some mornings so I have some afternoons to play.  Tuesdays I am going to go to Emery with dad to help him starting tomorrow.  I asked for a raise last week (I get paid $6 an hour) and mom and dad practically laughed in my face saying I got plenty of money for what I did.  It was embarrassing, insulting, and aggravating.

June 12, 2002
Yesterday I went to Emery with dad.  He was very busy and there were like 10 other doctors in the same building which made it so confusing.  I was very tired after we were done but decided to drive home because I need lots of practice on the stick shift car.  Ugh.  I almost got in two different wrecks.  It was so embarrassing and frustrating.  I am a terrible driver and driving the stick shift is even worse.

June 19, 2002
I love my dad to death.  I like working in the office with him (when he's not ornery) and kissing him goodbye.  Dad has been teaching me to drive a stick, and boy, does he have to be patient with me.  Dad's a little goody and nerdy sometimes, but he is tons of fun to work with!

June 25, 2002
Emery was good with dad today.  We were extremely busy and didn't get home until about 7:00.  Dad is really cool.  He can tell just what I'm thinking.  On our way there he asked if I liked Keenan [the boy I had a crush on at the time].  The craziest thing is I don't care at all when he knows who I like.  I just nodded my head.

Quite the gems, huh folks?  These posts always take me longer than any post of the week I do because I end up looking at so many old pictures and reading through old journals.  The experience has helped me revisit my past and has made me so grateful for those experiences.  The weird thing about life is sometimes we don't realize how great it is until we are past it.  I hope all of you will link up and take a stroll down memory lane- it really is amazing to revisit those old memories.

Link, link, link away!

Tuesday, July 09, 2013

LET'S TALK ABOUT BODY IMAGE. Or something.


Skirt:  Downeast Outfitters (Similar here.)  Tee:  Downeast Outfitters

Well, folks.  I've discovered some very alarming facts about myself and my body.  That body ain't doin for me what it used to do for me, and that's why we are going to talk today about BODY IMAGE because I'm having some issues!

FIRST OFF:  My fingernails are as ugly as they come.  Given, this is because I bite them down to stubs.  If they ever have nail polish on them, I bite all the nail polish off within two days.  It's a nervous habit.  Or more like a bored habit.  When I have nothing to do, I unknowingly go to town on my nails.  The only thing that seemed to semi help for about a week was shellac.  But let's face it, ain't nobody got time to be getting a manicure every week.  Or money, for that matter.

SECONDLY:  Red lipstick.


I have been given a lot of guff in my day for donning the bright red lipstick.  Greg teases me about it and says I can't kiss him when I'm wearing it because then everybody knows we been kissing.  I told him I think they know already.  The truth is I know Greg secretly likes the red lipstick. Or at least I tell myself he does so that I can still wear it whenever I want.  My brothers teased me a whole lot when I first started wearing it big and bright but then they moved on to other, more important things- like the way I throw a basketball.  The point is this.  I might not rock the red lipstick like Emma Stone or T. Swift but I rock it in my own way and that's what's important! Confidence, people!



POINT NUMERO THREE:

It has come to my attention that my arm is totally messed up.  Some would say disjointed.  I noticed this when I was at the gym yesterday lifting weights.  Actually, I just wanted to tell you all that I went to the gym. We can move on from this point.

No, but for reals, will you check out how messed up the arm on the right looks?  This is confusing to write because technically isn't it my left arm?  But it's on the right? The east arm...?  Let's go with that.  Check out the east arm.  The non braceleted arm.  Can you see how the elbow is totally pointing the wrong way?  Look at the elbow compared to the wrist.  That's not the way an arm is supposed to bend, am I right?  And thank my lucky stars that Greg didn't notice this before we got married or heavens knows I never would have caught myself a mate!


Number four:

My lazy eye is getting worse.  Please observe said picture.


I've always had a lazy eye.  I accepted it when I was eight and a half.  But the other day I was curling my hair, no big deal, staring in the mirror and I started thinking, "Man, what the freak is up with my eyes?"  Then I started to wonder... is this the permanent state of my eyes?!  Is one always smaller than the other?  Is my natural resting face that of such a total and utter creepster?

I hope you understand where I'm coming from, guys.  These are the things that keep me up at night.  That, and the fact that my second toe is growing larger than my big toe.  But the fact is I don't think I'm getting another body so I figure... love the one you're with, you know?  It's me and this body for another 60 years or so I might as well get on loving it.

Glad we had this talk.  I feel so much better.

Monday, July 08, 2013

I like tall friends and I cannot lie.

Announcing...


I've said it before and I'll say it again- blogging roundtables is my FAVORITE thing about blogging.  You get to meet people you've only stalked online, you get to talk blog strategy and bounce ideas off of each other, and it's a straight hour of uninterrupted blogging lingo!  After every roundtable I have left feeling so inspired by the energy of the other bloggers.

I am especially stoked for July's roundtable... Anything goes!  Before we've always picked just one topic to concentrate on but I decided that since July is always such a hot mess of a month that we'd make it a hot mess of a roundtable.  Any question you have about blogging is fair game and with all of our heads combined hopefully we'll be able to figure out a thing or two.

Also exciting about this month's blogging roundtable is that the location will be changed.  We have always done it in a public place but it has been hard to find space, wifi, etc.  So, we will be holding July's roundtable in a home in Orem.  A real house!  A house with wifi!  And the best part about being in a house is... FOOD!  Refreshments will be provided so all you've got to do is bring you notebook or your laptop, plop down on the couch, eat some grub and TALK BLOG!

If you are in the Provo area (or anywhere close) come join in!  Bloggers of all degrees/levels/commitments are welcome - the last four months we have had a range and it made for such insightful conversation.  I know it is scary to show up at a blogging thing all by yourself to meet random girls you have only seen online.  But I promise within minutes we're all friends and laughing away.  You won't regret it.   I would have killed for something like this in my first months of blogging.  Even now, it is a very valuable resource to me.

Interested? Jump on board already! $10 reserves your seat.  Email me at thelifeofbon@gmail.com asap because spots be flying like flipping pancakes.  I so want to meet you!


Also if you are out of the area, hold on to your butts!  I am in the process of trying to figure out how to do an online roundtable. Stand by.  HOLLER!

In other news, I have a new tall friend.  I am 5'4" so I like to hang out with tall people.  Basically I feel like they can do my bidding for me.  Like if I've got some kind of issue with some meanie all I gotta do is get my tall friend to do it for me.  Right, Kaylee, right?  Kaylee's going to take over the blog from here and give you a hilarious guide of stupid questions she gets about her height.  The woman is over six feet tall!  I was laughing out loud reading her post by myself in the kitchen.  It's that good.  Take it away, Kaylee!

Hello dear readers!

My name is Kaylee, and I'm semi-famous over at with love and heartness.



I'm going to be really upfront and honest with y'all:

The first thing everyone notices about me is my height.

Yes, dear readers, it's true: I am Very Tall.

(I like to make this as pronounced as possible, hence the capitalization of both words.)

shorties everywhere (in a non-degrading way)


To put it mathematically, I am 6'3", or 182.88 cm, if that's more of your game.

And just to ease your worries, I'm going to answer some common questions I receive because I am this tall.

Q: How is the weather up there?
A: It's a bit hotter, but really pretty. I can see more of the sunshine and birds and less of the cracks in the sidewalks and potholes on the road.



Q: Are your parents tall?
A: No. I was genetically modified to cause unease at classmates expense and go through life being clumsy and accident-prone.

universal studios at Disneyworld.

But actually, yes. My mom is 5'10" and my dad 6'4". My little brother is currently beating me at 6'3" 1/2, but I have hopes for another growth spurt. Those happen again after 25, right?

me, brother, mom three years later


Q: Is your boyfriend/fiance/husband tall?
A: YES! And thanks for covering all the bases, but we're still in the engagement phase for now. B is a whole three inches taller than me which means our babies will either be olympic volleyball players, or possibly famous basketball stars. Only time will tell...



Q: Have you ever dated someone shorter than you?
A: Over and over and over again. And then maybe one more time. I think for a period in high school my "boyfriend" was just my height. So I couldn't wear cute heels. Teenage Kaylee is very jealous of mid-twenties Kaylee for getting to finally wear cute shoes!

Q: Can you reach that?
A: Yes.

so it was shorter than usual, but still.


Q: Is is hard to find clothes?
A: Yes. And no. I've been sticking with a few good companies that I know have tall jeans and pants. I've also lucked out in the fact that long shirts/sweaters are in style now, so while girls are wearing shirts like dresses/legging covers, I snatch those up as regular shirts.

in proportion to my two best friends


And the number one, without a doubt, ABSOLUTELY HAS TO BE SAID OR THEIR HEAD MIGHT EXPLODE question I get...

"Do you play basketball?"

Sometimes I tell them that I'm a world famous ping pong player.

Sometimes I just say yes to get along with my life.

But the real answer is no. And if I answer no, I get follow ups of "why not!?" "what!?" "the high school coaches must have been all over you to play" and "well that's a shame". But it's really, honestly not a shame. While I do have the charming personality and outgoing spirit in the family, I did not receive the coordination gene.

I tried out for the basketball team in high school  my freshman year, but was so bad during tryouts, the coach asked me not to come back the third day in.

just in case you needed more proof

Luckily, I'm pretty good at this blogging/writing thing, so you should come say hi! I promise if you ask any of the above questions not to get mad- it happens all the time as a tall woman.

Sunday, July 07, 2013

Does a blog have a life span?


I feel like my blog has been slightly neglected.  I thought I was going to hit this blog so hard in the summer.  Just attack it full force.  Work on it like crazy, give it all the time and attention it needs to be a growing, healthy blog- one day able to support itself.  But you know how summer goes...  It's hard to make yourself wake up at 7 am when you could wake up at 9 am instead.  It's hard to force yourself to sit down at a computer when your friend is going to the water park, and when your husband is dying to see World War Z. Somehow a day slips by without me putting in the time I wanted and then somehow another and then somehow it's July 8 and I've done the bare minimum on the blog all summer.

I'm sorry, blog.

I suppose the truth is I feel uninspired... like my blog voice is gone and used up, like I got nothing more to say, like people are tired of the same old same old.  Does a blog have a life span?  I'm getting close to two years of blogging- is it about time for this baby to just lie down and die?  Or will she continue on for years and years?  Will I blog about the birth of all my children and the Christmases with my grandchildren and the retirement home I live in when I'm 80?  Or is this a "twenty something" year old pastime... soon to be thrown away with my bright lipstick and Taylor Swift cd?  It blows my mind that I have readers who have stuck around for months- I can hardly expect them to be around for decades, don't you think?

And do you know what else is weird?  I think I am scared of the people I know who read my blog.  I'm not scared of the strangers at all.  The strangers give me life and energy.  Blogging was easier when I had no idea who was out there- when I wrote for blank faces in blank homes.  I wrote to the vast universe without any thought of who might read or not read, who might approve or disapprove.  It is easier by far to write to a million strangers than to write for ten people whom you know very well.  Why is it easier to write to strangers?

On the fourth, Greg and I went to a family barbecue with my dad's side of the family.  They are all so sweet and supportive, so almost all my cousins whom I talked to had read up on the blog.  They knew we were sticking around instead of going to California, knew we had just gotten back from Hawaii, knew what I was wearing before I had even showed up.  It just felt strange, in a way.  I can't describe it exactly except for that it felt like I, myself, had violated my own privacy.  Like I was bugged that someone had told all my cousins all that information about myself when it was me that had told them...

Now go ahead and explain THAT for me, will you?

In other new, we've got some winners in the Hiz-ouse!

Gato Negro:   You won the June group giveaway

Taylor Morrell, Audra Kate, Kaylee:  You each won a $25 gift certificante to Very Jane

Kimberly Charlesworth:  You won the $50 Target gift card from Living in Yellow and Me. 

I will be in touch with you lovely ladies in the morning about getting your prizes.  

Here's to a fabulous week!

Saturday, July 06, 2013

Peace, love, and fireworks

Two fashion posts in a row, by golly, what is going on?  Is this blog out of its freaking mind?

But seriously.  Aren't fashion posts just the weirdest?  Like hmmm... I wore clothes today.  Let's take pictures of the clothes and put them on the public internet so even the people I didn't see that day can see the clothes I wore.  It's weird, admit it.  I am just barely getting to the point where I am even 10% comfortable taking "fashion pictures".  The truth is I have never been great at dressing myself and mostly I just feel like a fraud.

BUT.  I do love dressing for the fourth of July.  I adore it.  Here's the problem.  Blue and red are colors that go fantastic together.  Especially bright red and navy blue.  They are just a stunning combination.  But if I wear them together any other day of the year I look like a giant walking advertisement for America.  So I can't.  Those beautiful colors are strictly forbidden to be worn together except for on one glorious day... THE FOURTH.

Shirt: Forever 21 (similar here), Skirt: Banana Republic (similar here), Necklace: c/o Very Jane, Sunglasses: H&M, Shoes: Target (Similar here)





Greg and I climbed up on that roof and watched those fireworks like it was nobody's business.  That's the kind of people we are.

Now answer me this: Is there anything in this world greater than the fourth of July?

For your weekend reading:

+ One year later, I still struggle with this goal to be more "real" in my writing.
+ Some of you girls are on the prowl, so I wrote a sweet little diddy about how to catch a husband.  You're welcome.
+ Last July I wrote this bad boy about Mormons.  It is to date my number one most viewed post.  And to think, it was all triggered by the Bachelorette!
+ I'm planning on hitting the sponsorship hard in July and August- get my blog some good exposure.  I wrote this last summer about blog sponsorship.  There is so much I could add to it now!
+ I cannot get enough of this sweet blog.  It is totally sincere and totally real.  She makes me want to eat healthy and be kind to others and have a baby.  NOW.  This week, her 6 tips for better instagrams was my favorite. (Not sponsored- I just totally love this blog.)