I would always like to know a lot more about people's lives than they are willing to let on.
Some might say I'm a busy body.
I say I have a genuine interest in people.
I'm especially interested in marriage. And other people's marriages. And how everybody in this great, big world make their marriages work. Marriage is one of those things that I almost feel like people won't talk about very in depth. Oh, don't get me wrong, people will talk about marriage, but it's always in these broad sweeping overstatements like "It just wasn't working out," or "We definitely have issues we don't see eye to eye on," or "Our marriage doesn't come easy, but we make it work." In terms of specifics, what does any of that even mean? And why don't people who have been married for years and years give more specific advice to us newbies in the field?
One thing I wonder about a lot is how other couples deal with disagreements. In other words, fighting. Do Hubs and I argue more than the average couple? Less? We definitely go through patches where it seems like we argue about anything and everything, and then there are patches where we live peacefully week after week after week, floating in a state of seemingly endless bliss. Do all couples follow a pattern like this or is it just us?
Right now I am making a conscious effort to "bicker" less with Hubs. You know, to stop picking fights with the boy. Growing up, my siblings used to tell me that I just liked to argue, it didn't matter what the issue was, I would fight it to the death. Of course I didn't believe them, they were all morons in my book, but as I have grown and married I have wondered if this is true. How many times does it even matter what I am arguing and how many times am I arguing for the sake of arguing? Or for the sake of being right?
I was recently at a bridal shower where we played "Family Feud" bridal style. One of the questions was "What are some of the biggest things married couples fight about?" and then the top four answers were listed. Can you guess what they are? (Answers revealed tomorrow!)
What do YOU and your significant other fight most about? Do tell. Do tell.
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P.P.P.S. Happy Monday back from Thanksgiving. Blah. Double blah.